Furthermore, other than the very obvious reasons, why is a 42-year-old dating a 27-year-old?Has he ever been married or in a serious committed relationship? Do you want to spread your wings and live the carefree singles life for a while, or are you looking to settle down into the lifestyle that he has spent the past two decades creating?If you were 40 and he was 55, I would not be as concerned about the age difference as both of you would have had ample time to experience life and mold your identity.By dating someone so much older, you are missing out on being with someone who is in the same phase of life that you are; someone with whom you can share the joys and pitfalls of discovery.
Sure, we had the same kind of connection you speak about and I really did feel like we were kindred sprits in a lot of ways; however, the unavoidable truth was that we were at very different points of our lives.If he works construction for six months of the year and lives on unemployment the remaining months, you can expect that scenario to continue.He smokes pot every night to get to sleep, he won't be changing that habit for you.I can think of one acquaintance (on the autism spectrum) who at 30 years old behaved more like a bright, but slightly troubled, 13 year old than like the unemployed Ph. His health may deteriorate, especially if he has not take care of his body. If you are not, things ain't workin' for long.4. If you are in the 18-early twenties range, he may not be interested in much more than casually dating and fucking like rabbits.If he became seriously ill in a few years, are you ready to devote potentially years of your prime to being his nursemaid? If he introduces you to his age peers, they will all think he is dating you for the sex rather than for LTR interest.